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  • In their last days

    From JAB@21:1/5 to All on Sat Nov 18 06:29:26 2023
    No. 1 life regret of dying patients: I see it 'all the time,' says
    psychology expert--what to do 'before it's too late'
    ...
    ...
    In their last days, many of her patients shared with her their
    regrets. The most common answer, according to Ware, was: "I wish I had
    the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others
    expected of me."
    ...
    ...
    For eight years, Bronnie Ware was an in-home caregiver who looked
    after people who were dying. Her clients knew they were severely ill,
    and most were in the last three to 12 weeks of their lives.

    But Ware gradually realized that the most important role she was
    playing was not physical, but emotional. She was there to listen, and
    she catalogued those intimate reflections her book, "The Top Five
    Regrets of the Dying."

    https://www.cnbc.com/2023/11/17/the-no-1-regret-of-the-dying-i-see-it-all-the-time-says-psychologist-what-he-does-to-stop-it-now.html

    Leaving the "rat race" may have consequences.....YMMV.

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  • From Retrograde@21:1/5 to Retrograde on Sat Jan 20 18:09:42 2024
    On Tue, 21 Nov 2023 12:40:48 -0500
    Retrograde <[email protected]d> wrote:

    JAB <[email protected]d> writes:
    For eight years, Bronnie Ware was an in-home caregiver who looked
    after people who were dying. Her clients knew they were severely ill,
    and most were in the last three to 12 weeks of their lives.

    But Ware gradually realized that the most important role she was
    playing was not physical, but emotional. She was there to listen, and
    she catalogued those intimate reflections her book, "The Top Five
    Regrets of the Dying."

    So I finally got my hands on a copy of Ms. Ware's book. Pretty good
    stuff, although predictable and in my opinion slightly lengthier than necessary. For the curious, here are the big regrets:

    1: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
    life others expected of me
    2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard
    3: I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
    4: I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends
    5: I wish I had let myself be happier

    Lots of lessons from a person focused on the big picture, exposed to
    the awful final moments of lives nearing their conclusion, in a
    not-too-preachy voice. Good book.

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  • From JAB@21:1/5 to [email protected] on Sat Jan 20 18:19:04 2024
    On Sat, 20 Jan 2024 18:09:42 -0500, Retrograde
    <[email protected]d> wrote:

    Lots of lessons

    Reflections can be relative to experiences, and as such, can be biased
    for a lack of not having other experiences.

    2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard

    Lower wage earners may put a great effort in having their children do
    better economically than them...so the tradeoff, fuck them little
    bastards, and enjoy my life?

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  • From JAB@21:1/5 to [email protected] on Sun Jan 21 11:36:23 2024
    On Sat, 20 Jan 2024 18:09:42 -0500, Retrograde
    <[email protected]d> wrote:

    "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying."

    Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's "Stages of Dying" was based from an observer's
    view with one summation being "the reluctance of people to accept
    death as part of life."

    If this is true in Ware's book,

    1: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
    life others expected of me
    2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard
    3: I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
    4: I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends
    5: I wish I had let myself be happier

    I can only wonder how rational these people were? But, when examing
    Ms Ware's background

    Bronnie Ware (born 19 February 1967)[1] is an Australian author,
    songwriter and motivational speaker best known for her writings about
    the top deathbed regrets she heard during her time as a palliative
    carer[2][3] described in her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bronnie_Ware

    I see the "motivational speaker" description, and I associate these
    people with profit motives, while spewing out BS.

    2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard

    I have no idea what reference frame this came from, but I'd like to
    hear about a rational argument for Gold Bricking. Whinners...

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